I've always been that friend who has to go to other people's houses, people rarely come to my house. My two closest friends who I see regularly both have had children way before me, their kids are now 8 & 9 years old. I always went to them because it was always easier. As I was the one without kids. However, they both have partners (the fathers of their children) that could easily look after the kids for a couple hours of an early evening so they could come to me, but that was just never something that happend. I've ALWAYS been the one to do the run arounds.

I'm pregnant, 29 weeks. Up until now it's STILL been me going to their houses, not them coming here to my house. I'm now fat and exhausted ALL the time and I don't have the energy for it to be completely honest. I still talk to these two friend's daily, In a group chat, but I haven't been making the effort to go to their houses lately. And they both finally questioned me today. I told them I'm so tired all the time at the moment and they both know where I live if they want to come to my place to see me. I guess it must have sounded a little passive aggressive because they both instantly felt like there was a problem. I said that for years I've always been the one that has to go to them, they both said "Well it was just easier, because we had kids."

I responded "Yeah, and I knew that, which is why I've done it for as long as I have. Your kids are 9 years old now, nothing is realistically stopping either of you coming to MY house for an hour or 2 on an evening of your choices and your partners can watch the kids.. I'm now heavily pregnant and I'm going to have my own baby in 11 weeks time. I'm not going to be running around coming to your houses with a baby in the evenings when you both wanna see me. So if you guys don't come to me too, I'm not going to see either of you am I?

Me saying that caused a little tension between the three of us. One of my friends even called me after I sent that message and said "Are you good?" I was like "Yeah, I'm fine, I'm just making a point. When I have my kid you guys are going to HAVE to start putting the effort in to come and see ME at MY house at times too. She said "Yeah but once the work days over, and then once my kids in bed that's my relaxing time." So I said "Yeah..And atleast twice a week you hit me up and ask me to come over and see you, which I do, every single time. I won't be able to do that with a baby." She then turned what I said back on me and said "But your partner can watch the baby too?" And I got miffed and said "Yeah, eventually, but you're not listening or understanding the point I'm trying to make! It's ALWAYS me that's come to you guys, not the other way around. And when I have my own child, I'll be in the SAME BOAT as you guys. So you and (other friend) will have to start making the effort like I have for YEARS"

We ended the phone call because I got a little pissed. But do you think I was TAH for bringing this up and making that point, because I don't think I am.