tw talk of mental health and sh: im 16(f) and my mother is 37. ive been taking care of her,making her food and drinks whenever she needs,helping her get dressed(quite rarely) and many other errands that escape my mind at the moment,everyday for years. i genuinely dont remember how old i was when this started but i know i was 9 or younger.

she is basically disabled because of her mental health issues and a condition called fibromyalgia but she thinks i have it as well and i struggle with my mental health as well.ive been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. i barely go out because of my anxiety and will avoid leaving my house or even room for important things like doctor's appointments because its genuinely terrifying to me. i struggle with sh and she knows that as well but despite all of this i still have to take care of her.

little over a month ago i broke down and told her i feel like her caregiver/mother and not her child. i feel like ive been forced to grow up and now i just want to enjoy my last two years as a kid while i still can. im constantly exhausted and in pain as well as her so i dont understand why i have to take care of her when im going through the same stuff as her. she rarely ever makes me food or drinks and i just dont ask her to because i know shes in pain. if we're both in pain im still the one who has to take care of her.

after i sent her a long paragraph explaining how i feel she just replied with “you refuse to get treatment and okay ill leave you alone“ she did tell me to not feel bad about sharing my feelings(i told her i feel like an ahole) and thanked me for telling her. she did leave me alone for a few days but then just went back to asking me to constantly make her food and drinks. the other day i had to run her a bath and tell her when its ready,i wouldnt mind but her reason was “i hate doing it“ , then today ive been asked multiple times to make her food and drinks.i refused tonight as its late and ive told her earlier in the day im stressed and feel like i cant get out of bed and reminded her again im her child,not her mother. her reason for asking me to make her food so late is because shes tired and wants to stay awake to finish her game.

after back and forth a few times she just said okay. when im in my room i start crying because i just dont feel listened to or seen. a few minutes later my stepdad goes to make her something to eat and sees me crying,he asks me whats wrong and as i try to explain how i feel like her mother and that im caring for her 24/7 he says that she cares for me the same amount which might be true but i honestly dont see or feel it,he then told me “you should just be grateful“ and leaves.

i feel like im going insane and i feel like im acting like a spoiled brat so i just want to know if im wrong for wanting to stop caring for her 24/7

aitah? sorry for any spelling and or grammar errors,i havent been in school for years and i was crying the whole time reading this.