So I (25f) have this friend Jared(27m) that I’ve been friends with for a few years now. Over the course of a few years we’ve hooked up twice, flirted a few times and then became strictly platonic after that. We’ve been platonic for about 3ish years now. Jared recently got into a relationship (about a year or so ago) and it seems like things are going really well for them. Since he’s been with her he’s had a few events at his house and invited me along with some of our mutual friends. I’ve met his girlfriend and she’s really sweet and bubbly and super friendly. Whenever we see each other she makes me feel so included (I’m a bit of a wallflower) and we have really good conversation.

Unfortunately sometimes when I’m around her I can’t help but feel a little bit awkward because I don’t know if she knows about me and Jared’s history. Is that something she should know if it’s in the past? Or do I owe it to her to tell her? One of my friends said that it would be shady to continue being friendly/friends with her and not give her full disclosure. But another friend said that there’s no need to go creating drama over something that’s in the past and irrelevant now. I would also hate for her to somehow find out from someone else and then wonder why I didn’t tell her or feel like I was being deceitful.

Is it something I should bring up to her? Or is it a case of “what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her”?