I, 25 M, almost 26 M, am currently living with my parents, 58 F and 62 M. I work a steady job right now and make 22.50 an hour. However, my mom owns the title of the car I'm using. She is very controlling and narcissistic. It used to be that I let her manage every aspect of my life. I have autism and ADHD, and she always told me that I'm helpless and vulnerable and can't manage things myself. I let her make a lot of decisions for me. I was still a kid in an adult's body, really. I hadn't discovered what I felt passionate about yet. And, to be fair, I had a lot of immature, disrespectful behaviors from my past that I regret, so I had a reason to feel like I couldn't make it on my own. Now I've grown up and found what I wanna do with my life. I started finding solutions for my problems and figuring out how to do a lot on my own. My desire to go out and do what I want and hang out with who I want, however, triggered my mom. Back when I was hanging out with people online, she put a time block on the router to prevent me from talking with them after midnight. I went behind her back and disabled it. One night when she was agitated by me hanging out with them, she got mad that "these people online mean more to you than me". Then when I've been using the car she has a title on to go see and hang out with who I want, and mind you she and my dad have cars of their own, she gave me a curfew to be back home by 9:30, and if I wasn't back home she'd call the police. I am a functioning adult who needs no curfew. Her only excuse for her behavior is that she feels like she can't sleep without me being home at night. One such time, I was brave enough to try and leave anyways, even though she was telling me no, and she and my dad strangled me to prevent me leaving. I got so scared that I called 911. But it was stupid because it didn't make a difference. She, as a communal narcissist, acted as she always did, making me sound crazy and unable to function to others, and the police said she was justified because she owned the title of the car. She left a few marks on me. And yet, she uses the lawful part of her behavior to justify her actions and says that I assaulted her to this day. Eventually, because of help I received from a close friend and helpful articles on how to take control back from a narcissist, I threatened to get an Uber and abandon my mom and block all contact with her if she ever behaved that way towards me again. She has since stopped and I feel a lot stronger for finally learning to stand up to her behavior. I'm currently trying to save to get my own car, set up a passion project, and eventually get my own place to live. I still feel like I walk on eggshells with my mom and lie to her about where I go sometimes for my safety from her behavior. Plus, I feel like she deliberately tries to sabotage me by lying and influencing me to pay unnecessary money for things sometimes. In fact, I've come to realize that she's a pathological liar, mostly when it comes to her selfish behaviors. I've also seen a cop a few times at one point watching the road when I come home from work and only turning his lights on and leaving when I drove by. I confronted her about it and she denied, and after I confronted her the cop stopped showing up, only showing up when I didn't text her before leaving for home. She still denies she ever did it. I just looked through her phone and found no evidence she did it. She could've deleted the texts. But I also feel like I go crazy with my accusations towards her because sometimes I'm wrong. I just really don't trust her. I know she doesn't wanna let her baby go and has an unhealthy psychological need for me to be close to her. I have a sister, 20 F, who puts up with her behavior more and gets treated better. She let my mom track her using Snapchat. My mom once asked me if she could track me, and that was a hard no. I feel like she won't let me live my own life despite constantly claiming that's all she wants for me, and that she'll do anything it takes to prevent me from having a vehicle in my name, because it would allow me to fully be free from her controlling behaviors. I've been making my plans for eventual escape carefully and quietly for this reason. AITAH for not trusting her to the point of making false accusations, though?