I am 32F. I was in an intimate relationship with 42 M. We were not really dating but we did every now and then go on a date and enjoy time together outside of intimacy.

Last year I had a really bad kidney infection that went septic. I was in ICU for a couple of days and then had surgery to remove the stones that caused the infection. I honestly didn't really think about the antibiotics that could nullify my birth control. He was sweet throughout the hospital visit brought me flowers and helped me at home. We ended up having sex a few times when I was on antibiotics and well I got pregnant.

I found out I was pregnant @ about 8 weeks along. At that point he and I weren't quite as cozy and when I told him I was pregnant he basically said he always wore a condom ( he didn't) and it couldn't possibly be his. There was a lot of yelling. He told me to get rid of it and then left. I tried to call him a few days later to address it and I was blocked. I sent him a confirmation of the pregnancy to his address ( idk his email) and he called me just to tell at me then told me to leave him alone and I wasn't pregnant by him. So I did. I left him alone.

Fwd to now I have a 2 month old baby girl. I called him when I went into labor and I even called his mom to try to make sure he didn't miss it but no luck.

Anyway I saw him in town a couple of weeks ago and as soon as he saw our daughter he completely freaked out said he knows what his kids look like ( he has older kids through his first marriage) and was furious that I didn't tell him. I reminded him I did tell him and he told me to get rid of it and blocked me.

He has asked how much I paid for the birth and has paid for half of it. He has also sent me money for diapers and stuff. He has seen her a few times since he met her and seems somewhat happy. However every time we talk it starts out nice and ends up in an argument saying I should have tried harder and he was going through some things and wasn't thinking straight. He didn't believe I was even pregnant. There have been a lot of excuses and anger towards me for him not knowing he was having another child.

I'm not really sure what to say. I realize this wasn't expected. I didn't have any children and wasn't exactly keen on having them but that all flew out the window when I actually saw her in the ultrasound and realized this was actually happening.

I don't expect him to be happy family but I'm tired of getting yelled at when I told him immediate that I was pregnant. I sent confirmation and I called him and his mom at the birth. Idk what more he expected I tried he blocked me and told me to get rid of it. Now he's acting like none of that happened and I was keeping her from him.

Aitah for not doing more? I guess I could have demanded a paternity test or something but he was adamant he didn't want her so I wasn't going to keep fighting over it.