As for the context.

I (25M) have been in multiple relationships before but now since 3 years I don’t want to have a relationship.

First of all I am polyamorous which means I can feel love for more than 1 person. (Discovered this about half a year ago even though I have kinda been in 1 poly relationship before)

Since I am single I did have multiple friends with benefits that are not just for having sex. I really enjoy being with them as we can laugh, have fun, go for a nice dinner or to a festival etc. I really care about them, but to be honest, even if they were polyamorous I don’t know if I would step in a relationship with them.

This has different reasons depending on each person. One of them does not click well with my friends (and friendships are even more important to me than relationships). Another wants to be to controlling in a relationship and would not fully let me live my life as I would want it to live. Another one I click really well with but I feel less attracted to her and I think as time will move on our life’s might grow apart more.

I have a job where I have to travel a lot and most of the year I am not at home. When I am at home I want to have freedom with who I want to spend my time with. Not having to worry about expectations of someone that I have to spend X amount of time with. Also in the near future I’m planning on buying a house in a different country.

Now to come back to the main question.

Some of these girls think that even though I clearly say I don’t want to be in a relationship, this will change over time and they start seeing it more as a relationship overtime since there are some romantic aspects like cuddling, “dates” proper basic respect, caring for eachother, proper communication and trust.

I am always honest about my intentions but still I am wondering if I am the asshole for putting girls in a position where they start developing feelings for me.

Side note. One of the girls who might have feelings for me just enjoys the moment like me, without expecting things to end up in a relationship. The other ones also enjoy the moment but end getting their hopes up for the future.