I 21F live in WA with my fiancé. My mother (40-ish F) lives in CA with her husband and her new baby. For some context I have never had a good relationship with my mother, even tho I have tried time and time again she has proven she didn’t want one with me.

I’m not her only kid besides her baby, I have a younger sibling who is 18. Our mother never took care of us or raised us whatsoever.

Back to the story, my mother had her daughter about 7 months ago, and she has tried to contact me so I can get to know my new “sister”.

I had made I clear to her that I was not interested in being apart of her or the babies life because of the horrible things she has done and the fact that I had never had any relationship with her to begin with.

She freaked out said that this is why she never was in my life because if I was her daughter I would forgive and forget.

Side note : my mom was mentally abusive during the small time I would see her. That and she is an active drug user and has been my whole life.

She then goes on to say that she never wants to talk to me again, but she still tries and have my grandma and my sibling tell me that I need to apologize and try and talk to her because it was a “miscommunication”.

Most of my mom’s side of the family has also cut me off because of this which has been a huge stressor because I was close with a lot of them.

So AITAH? Or is my mom just being a raging narcissist?