I 26F have been with my bf25M for 2 years. I have had my dog , we will call her pretty girl, for 9 years since I was 17. I got her at a very hard time in my life and we were connected from day 1. I took pretty girl with me everywhere and we did everything together. She gave me a purpose and my mom will often say how grateful she is for pretty girl, because she didn’t think I would still be earth-side if I never got pretty girl.

Pretty girl got diagnosed with cushings disease a few months ago after months of being ignored by her vet that something was wrong. She was a completely different dog. I started pretty girl on a medication that can help slow progression, and it did, for a while. The meds became ineffective and I knew I had to do what was best for pretty girl.

This past Saturday I had an in home vet come to help pretty girls pass. My bf and I spend all day Saturday with pretty girl, we went to the park twice and got her dog ice cream and made her steak, and then I just laid with her. After the vet administered the final medication and pretty girl passed, I was a mess. Relieved she wasn’t hurting anyone but so so sad. My bf stayed with me the whole evening, he picked us up dinner and took care of the 2 dogs we have together.

The next morning, it’s a Sunday so it’s another off day for him. I wake up and I’ve been crying all night, my eyes hurt, my face is exhausted and I am just hurting with a heavy heart. My bf and I laid in bed for about 30 mins playing with our other dogs, and it made me emotional a few times.

After around 30 minutes, my bf asked me if I’m going to hang out in the game room with him while he plays his video game. This really took me by surprise. My bf and I have a long history with the game. I use to try to limited his time on the game, not in a , oh you have 3 hours to play way- but , hey babe you’ve been on the game for 3 hours and we haven’t spent any time together yet and it’s getting late” kind of way. He works 40 hours a week, and I do not exaggerate when I say that I’m lucky to get 30 mins to an hour of his attention when we eat dinner. That is being generous, and he is normally watching tv or TikTok and doesn’t hear me when I speak or acts annoyed he has to pause what he’s doing to talk to me. I have continually felt like an after choice to the game, and we have had countless conversation about it. I have expressed that I am lonely in our relationship and I am not happy, and that my emotional and even my physical needs are not being met. He says he will prioritize me over the game, and he will, for a few weeks or a couple months, but it always goes back to the game getting all of his spare time. If an event is happening and he has to go a day without his game, his mood is sour. I personally believe it is an addiction but besides the point. The point being, we have issues revolving around the game.

So my bf asked me if I am going to hang out in the game room, and I am taken back. I sit in silence for a few seconds and asked for clarification that he was about to play on his game, he said yes, and I asked if he could wait until later. Cue an eye roll and a dramatic sigh from bf. I an again taken back by that reaction, and said nevermind, and otherwise encouraged him to go on the game because I would rather avoid a fight.

Fast forward, he gets off the game and we go to the lake which brings me peace. We get back home , I work on a school assignment and he takes a nap. I wake him up about 8pm so he doesn’t just sleep and wake up in middle of night and mess up his sleep schedule, and then I take the dogs outside. I come back in and peek into room to make sure he is awake, he is and in a mood, and asks me why I’m looking at him. I go not engage and go back to other room to finish my assignment.

My bf comes in because he is upset, I thought because of the interaction we just had where I walked away without answering him. He is actually upset because I didn’t want him to go on his video game this morning. He tells me he didn’t get to go on his game at all yesterday because we were doing “everything that you wanted to do for pretty girl” , he said he was my SLAVE the entire day and that since pretty girl was put down yesterday, he should have gotten to go on the game the following morning without hearing about it.

I expressed that this is the worst thing I have gone through in life, and I am going to need a little more support during it. He is saying that he supported me yesterday during pretty girls passing, and that he isn’t going to “stop his life” because I’m more emotional than usual.

I told him I want to end our relationship. He says ending a relationship over a dog is insane and that I need clinical help. He said anyone in the world would agree, that me not wanting him to go on the video game the day after my dog passed was outrageous. (I have suggested couples counseling for months) and he said we should go to counseling, so he can see the look on my face when someone looks me in the eye and tells me how wrong I am.

So yeah, this is my straw. This behavior from him is not anything new, but I feel like not being understanding to the passing of my best friend is just…. Cruel. I am curious for some outside perspective however, i want to be the best person and partner I can be. AITAH?