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AITAH for not wanting my in-laws (65+) to sleep in our bed?

Every time my husband (33m) and I (30m) take an extended trip, my in-laws (who live 90 minutes away), ask to stay at our place. Fine.

But when they are here, they sleep in our bedroom.

We live in a 2 bedroom, 1 bath apartment in Manhattan. Our guest bedroom, while not large, has a queen size bed. It’s nothing against them (I would feel the same about my own parents), I get caught up on the principle. Our bedroom is private, intimate space where my husband and I sleep together, have sex, and start + end our days together. In my ideal world, no one besides us would ever be in here.

When I bring it up to my husband, I get put on defense and asked to explain myself - he counters with why I don’t feel this way about sleeping in hotel rooms where other people have also slept - which is not the point, but in his defense, he’s stuck between a rock (an unhappy spouse) and a hard place (an uncomfortable conversation with his parents).

Also for consideration - all roads point to me if he were to say something to his parents. Then I would most certainly be the AH in their eyes. Does anyone win (except for my blissfully ignorant in-laws)?

AITAH? Do I try to drop it?