Hey everyone I wanted to post an update after my original post a little while ago. First off, thank you to everyone who shared support, perspective, and even some tough love. It really helped me feel more grounded and less alone in what’s been one of the hardest times of my life.

Secondly, I'm sorry I haven't been responding to comments or private messages I've just been really wrapped up in my head.

It's been a little over a day since I posted, I ended up speaking to my aunt (my mom’s sister). I hadn’t originally told anyone in the family, but I felt like I needed someone who knew my mom to understand how much this situation was hurting me. I told her everything from the agreement my brother and I had, to him selling my mom’s jewelry and furniture behind my back, to his reaction when I confronted him.

She was shocked and actually furious on my behalf. She told me that I wasn’t overreacting and that grief is not an excuse for betrayal, especially when someone takes advantage of trust. She also offered to help me try to track down any items that might still be recoverable, which I really appreciated.

As for my brother, I did eventually respond to one of his messages not to reconnect, but to make it clear that what he did broke something I don’t think can be repaired right now. I told him I need time, space, and most importantly, respect. He apologized again, and I think he realized for the first time just how badly he messed up, but honestly… I’m not ready to forgive him. That might change one day, but today is not that day.

For now, I’m focusing on healing grieving my mom in my own way, holding on to the few items I still have of hers, and creating boundaries where I need to. Cutting him off wasn’t easy, but it was necessary for my own peace. I don’t think I’m the AH for choosing that.

Thanks again to everyone who helped me feel heard. Much love.