I have this “friend” who’s turning sixteen soon however I don’t want to go and celebrate it with her as she isn’t the nicest of people. She’s absolutely spoiled rotten but then will deny being spoilt. If I tell her I had a bad fight with my parents she’ll go out of her way to bring up how much of a fun time she had with her parents the other night. She absolutely looks down on me and continuously talks down to me despite me asking her not to. If Im talking g about something she will literally hum and look sprint and go “i wasn’t listening to a word you said” and then move on to something about herself. I’m a relatively tall girl which I’m insecure about and she then continues to bring up how tiny she is and how easy it is for her to get a boyfriend. She goes out of her way to befriend people who’ve been horrible to me. We invite her out for things and she’ll decline, but then talk and post about how lonely she is. There is way more but that’s just a few of the things to try give you an idea of her character. I can’t stop being friends with her as it would just cause too many issues so I keep my distance, I’m polite and friendly and treat her the same I do anyone else but I don’t see her outside of school hours. Simply because I don’t want to. But the issue at hand is I don’t want to go out of my way, spend my time, energy and money on her birthday plans. It’s quite close to a major exam for me and a few friends so we asked if she could celebrate it early and she declined it. And every time she mentions birthday plans she makes sure to mention her opening presents at least 3 times. The group has a thing where we all collectively give gifts and every time it’s time to get another friend presents she’s super aloof and does the bare minimum but it’s a totally different story when it comes to her. If we wait the only other time we’ll celebrate it will be around my birthday and then no one will have time to do things for me. The group is torn and no one knows how to bring it up to her. And it’s not like she makes tones for effort for other peoples birthdays either, last year she got me chocolate which I was super thankful for but it was a flavour she knew I don’t like. And her explanation was “oh well I just had my mum go out and get it last night”this is all over the place and I’m definitely ranting now but I don’t know what to do, I’d hate to cancel and like ruin her plans so should I just stick it out and go along and smile?