So, first things first, my mom REALLY hates my brother’s girlfriend. In order to understand the whole situation, let me just quickly explain my family situation: My two adult brothers’s father and my (16 yr old F) mother are engaged and have been together for around 7 years now.

One of my brothers, let’s call him Mark, is dating a girl for 1 year now, let’s say her name is Anna.

Anna is an e-girl I would say (which is, of course, not a problem to me because I’m goth myself, but seems to be a problem for both my mom and my stepdad) and she’s kinda not educated. She hasn’t finished high school and my fam cares about academics pretty much. Mark is a programmer at a good company and has salary that could probably fed an family of 10, mom is a teacher at a prestigious private school, I’m top of my class and my other brother, stepdad are also kinda successful. So my mother was at least mad when she found out about that, but she didn’t say anything then.

One day, when Anna and Mark where at home for my stepdads birthday (my other brother couldn’t be there), my mom and Anna started arguing. My mother asked her will she get a job soon(in a form of small-talk) because Ann was unemployed, and she got so mad about that question. She started being really mean and stuff. I kinda just sat there and listened.

A few hours later Mark and my mom and stepdad were ,,talking” (but it sounded like a fight) about that situation. I was standing outside the kitchen and listening. Apparently, my mom said something really offensive to Anna she told Mark about it. My mom was claiming that she never said that. When I entered the room, my brother asked me if my mom has said it. I got stressed because the convo was kinda intense, and I just blurted something like ,,I don’t know, I wasn’t listening” which was true, but I knew that my mom has never said anything like it, and I went to my room. My mom was really mad at me becoause of that but we just forget about it after some time.

Even though that this situation was taking place 6 months ago, my mom had brought it back today I claimed that I was cruel and that ,,how could I do this to her?” I explained myself then and now just like I did here earlier, but now I’m starting to wonder: Am I The Asshole and I should get involved, and probably join the fight because I don’t think that they would let me go so fast, or did I do the right thing?

By the way sorry for any grammatical errors, I’m from Poland so English isn’t my first language