Hey all - would love some advice on whether you think I’m the asshole. My wife and I tragically had a miscarriage the first time She got pregnant a couple months ago. This hit us both really hard, and we’re both excited to try again.

Well this time around, my wife wants to take literally all precautions possible. She read online that both men and women should abstain from alcohol while trying to conceive - and is telling me that I need to be fully sober while we’re trying for a kid. We didn’t do this last time and got pregnant very quickly - given the miscarriage she’s on high alert.

For me, drinks while hanging out with friends and winding down on the weekend is a big part of my social life - and not something I feel needs to be given up, especially since there’s little concrete medical advice to validate? I want to be supportive and try for a baby again, but don’t want to necessarily be wrapped in bubble wrap, especially since it could take a while. To be clear, this is not something I expect her to do either! And I’m not looking to go out and get hammered every weekend either…..just fyi.

Would love to hear from you all, AITAH?