Backstory .. My husband and I have been together for 3 years, married for 1. He has been divorced from his ex wife for 7 years. They have 3 kids together that we have joint custody of, but the parents do not get along and we all do not co parent well. She verbally and physically abused my husband when they were married, as well as cheated on him and took their kids out with different men while he was at work. From the beginning she has harassed me, due to wanting him back. Drove by my job, parked outside of it waiting to see me, drove by our house, texted me saying he abused her (later told me that was not true.) She has opened my front door and walked into the house to get her daughter because she found out she was staying with me while her dad went to football practice with their son. It has been a nightmare for me from the beginning, and I have extreme anxiety surrounding this person. My husband’s family acts like they do not like her as well, and always backs me up when it’s just us. But when it comes down to it, they always communicate with her, and are very friendly. They have also hinted that my husband is being dramatic and that they still “love her.” I always feel like the odd one out as it is. I was tasked with making some food for my sister in laws baby shower this weekend, but then I got a text from ex wife saying she would be coming as well. AITAH for wanting to say forget it and not go?