So I'm getting married soon, and my fiance is having her hen do (bachelorette party) in the next few weeks. I've been contacted by some of the guests to help with a game of Mr & Mrs (I answer questions, and my fiance has to try to guess what my answer was/answer the same).

I'm certainly up for this, it sounds like good fun. I am quite a shy person though, bordering on socially awkward. Even some of the less personal questions (where was your first kiss? Where was your first date? Etc.) made me a little uncomfortable, but I recognise that as being an issue of mine, rather than anyone else's. I put my discomfort to one side in the name of helping the party to be fun.

There were some questions where I didn't feel like the discomfort was entirely unreasonable: "What is [Fiance]s favourite sexual position?", "What is the most adventurous place you've ever had sex?"

I'm pretty uncomfortable with being asked those questions, and even more so with the idea that my answers would be played out on video at a party attended by my sister, and a bunch of my fiancés friends. I've never shared details like this with any of them (or anyone else), and have no real interest in starting now.

I've sidestepped the issue by answering along the lines of "That's too personal, I'm not going to answer." Which, from my end, solves the problem. I don't particularly mind people thinking I'm boring for answering that way, and I don't mind if my fiance spills the beans while she's playing the game.

My problem is that my understanding of my fiance is that she won't want to answer these questions either. Except she won't be given the questions in the form of a text message. She's going to be asked in front of all her closest friends, most of whom will be drinking (and therefore more likely to pressure her to answer in the name of fun).

My fiance is certainly more outgoing than I am, but she has a similar distaste for feeling embarrassed, and I don't want her to be put in a difficult situation at a party that's supposed to be about her.

I'm perfectly understanding of the difficulties that the hen party organisers have, they've got a difficult job that I wouldn't be much good at. But I feel like they've missed the mark. I only have one criticism of them where I feel confident I'm in the right (as opposed to just a difference of opinion). The list of questions comes from a previous hen party, for one of the guests at this one. I know that the groom in that case felt uncomfortable with the exact same questions, and refused to answer on video. I feel like the obvious learning from that would be that these questions aren't actually fun, and that they're maybe just a bit invasive and overly personal.

The way I see it, I have 3 options: 1) Do nothing, let the party go ahead, trust that the hen party organisers know what they're doing, and that this actually will be fun. 2) Give my fiance a heads up about the questions that I think might make her feel uncomfortable. That slightly spoils the game, but at least she can feel prepared for what's coming, and decide how she wants to respond to it. 3) Message the hen party organisers and ask if they're sure they want to ask these questions. I don't think this is something my fiance will want to talk about, but I feel a bit uncomfortable going to the hen party organisers (one of whom is my fiancés sister), and saying "I know [fiance] better than you, and I think you've got this wrong."

I'd love advice on which option people think I should go for, and whether it's even reasonable for me to be putting so much thought and stress into this.

It would also be great to hear from people who've been in similar situations, and how they played out. If you've been at a bachelor/bachelorette party where the "shy" person was drawn out of their shell by something like this, or if you've seen it go the other way.

Very last thing: I'd be perfectly happy to hear that I am the one with a problem here! If I'm overreacting to nothing, then that actually solves my problem.