My husband 33(M) says I'm the worst 32(F) for not wanting to sit outside literally everyday and watch our 4 year old daughter play with the neighborhood kids.

When I sit outside with her I end up babysitting all the kids. There tends to be 8-10 kids Ranging from 3 to 10 years old. And either me and my husband are usually the only ones out there watching them. Sometimes I end up having 4 kids in my house for hours. It's pure chaos to me and I really dislike it. When my duaghter gets together with one in specific all they do is bicker and whine and it's harder to get my daughter to calm down when she's with her. They can also get a little aggressive with each other.

I was camp counselor when I was younger and that's honestly how it feels to me right now. I feel like I'm running a day camp. I will also admit that where I grew up it wasn't normal for 3 year olds to play just supervised by their 6 y.o brother. CPS would get called asap and parents would get in trouble. Honestly it's weird to me that parents would just let their kids go over to someone's house they haven't met with just a sticky note with their phone number. I could be a raging physco for all they know. I'm not but you just never know.

We do live in a gated community but people here don't respect stop signs or speed signs. Drive ways are also super active and we did have one occasion where my daughter was almost hit. God forbid that were someone else's kid the parent outside would get blamed. Which like I mention it's only me and my husband and sometimes one other neighbor but he usually stays in the garage.

Now here's the issue, I'm 3 months pregnant and had extreme nausea for a couple of weeks so my husband has been the only one going out with our daughter. But even he's tired of it and wants me to go out there and babysit all those kids. But I can't sit outside to long in the heat before I start feeling nauseous. My daughter is already too much to handle and watching more kids is honestly stressful AF!

I had my daughter at 7 months because I had some complications so this pregnancy is technically consisered a high risk pregnancy. He's been talking to the other moms about their pregnancies and they all say they only barfed once. I was literally throwing up 6-8 times a day for 3 weeks. I've gotten it down to once a day if I'm out in the heat I'll throw up even more. Which he sees me throw up but doesn't care he thinks I'm milking this and should be able to just sit outside and watch them.

Just to mention he's out of job right now has taken over waking up with our daughter, doing school drop off and pickup. When she comes home I watch her while he continues to play video games and smoke grass. He also has taken over dinner duties, but usually ends up cooking 3 days out of the week. He does take her out to play in the neighborhood but he's usually just in the garage smoking not actually watching them like I do. Which is ok for a man. But as women I would be judge and called a bad mom for doing that. Which I still get called either way if I don't go out there. I've been getting called every name in the book for this.

I still do the laundry and cleaning when I can as well. I have also started resuming picking her up and taking her to the library and park. But honestly I haven't been able to keep up as much as I used to. Honestly this issue has been making this pregnancy the worst and I'm afraid to get a subchorionic hemotoma again and have another premature baby.

So AITAH for not wanting to go outside and babysit all those kids?