We spend most of the school holidays (2 weeks) at my MIL’s home and she usually comes for a week or so.

This is extremely stressfull and tiring for me because my eldest son acts out when he spends all his time with her (she lets him do anything he wants), tensions are high (most simple conversations can end up with screaming and aggressive behavior), she doesn’t help with anything (groceries, cooking, cleaning, laundry, gardening), she only wants to play with her grandkids…

When she leaves, it is such a relief for me and I am so tired I can’t enjoy the few days left before we go back home.

I told my partner I don’t want to be here when she comes next summer. I prefer staying hone or going to my parents’ country home. He is not accepting this decision at all and tells me I have to get things straight with her.

I have been trying for years but I guess she won’t change and doesn’t accept criticism. Our relationship was very good before I had kids and it went downhill pretty quickly after the birth of my eldest.

AITAH for wanting some time away from her ?