So myself (M24) and a group of friends are very into drinking whiskey as a hobby. Every month or so we’ll meet up at one guy’s place and sample a few things. It’s a pretty responsible group that knows their limits, and there’s plenty of couches there if things get out of hand. One of those guys got a DUI a few years back (unrelated to our group events), and we take driving under the influence pretty seriously. Usually I sample a few things (equivalent to at most 2-3 drinks), hang out for a few hours, and head home. Coincidentally I wrecked a car in the rain last week and have been borrowing a relative’s car.

My girlfriend (F22) of 4 months has been out of town for a few days with her family. She’s aware of my friends and I’s whiskey hobby and meetups and has never voiced anything against it. And I’ve told her a few times in the past that I generally just have a couple drinks, hang out for a few hours after, and go home.

So when I got over to my buddy’s place yesterday one of them had surprised me with something very hard to find and out of excitement, I sent my girlfriend a picture in a group chat with her and a couple of friends she introduced me to (one male, one female). And my gf texted me saying that I better not be driving. And I told her she knows I’m responsible. And I told her again I was having literally one drink, chilling out for a couple hours, then going home. And she basically just said “I’m mad at you” and stopped responding. Her friend told her to chill out.

I honestly thought that she was just messing around… Until she wasn’t. I texted her separately to check in and no response. I saw 30 minutes later that she stopped sharing her location with me. An hour later she responds with a message saying that basically I should know better, how I’m doing something dangerous, and how I can’t afford to wreck another car. I told her something respectfully along the lines of “If it really makes you feel more comfortable I’ll spend the night here”. And she replied telling me that if I’m doing this to save her feelings then I don’t really mean it. And super slow responses when she usually replies in under two minutes. So basically the majority of the night was spent worrying if my relationship was done. I ended up knocking back a few more drinks and spending the night there.

Girlfriend texts and calls this next morning acting as if nothing ever happened and essentially made sexual advances on the phone. I’m left totally confused wondering what happened and if I did something wrong or if she overreacted.