Me,Naomi (25F) have been in a relationship with Taylor (26M) for 4 years now. He dated my (now ex) best friend Hannah for less than a year about 7 years ago when we were still in school. I had known I was attracted to him long before they got into a relationship but never made a move but once they got together, I kept my distance from him. I only started talking to him once I realized that I had to eventually talk to him since he was going to be around Hannah who i was going to be around. (I just wanted to make it clear here that even though Hannah and I were Best Friends, we moved in different circles and hardly ever spent time with each other, weird I know, but we were in school then so I guess it just worked somehow)

They eventually went through a messy breakup (incompatibility I suppose because none of them cheated) and i stopped talking to him once I realized that they were serious about not getting back together. He and I were already good friends by then (similar to his relation with our other best friends) but decided that I would rather cut him off from my life completely to show "support" towards Hannah. 4 years since then, we were both in college in different countries and I get a call from him. It was just a "Hi, how are you?" Kind of call and we stopped talking again for the next few months. After connecting with him again and talking on call months down the line and we both realized that we were both attracted to each other. He confessed he was attracted to me in school too, long before he had gotten into a relationship with Hannah. I talked to Hannah about how we (Taylor and I) had started talking as friends again and kept her informed in every step. She was supportive, She was already in another relationship by then and considerably happy. After talking to our mutual friends, they decided that it was completely okay to initiate a relationship with Taylor. Hannah even went to the extent to letting me know after a few months and years that I could freely talk to her about my relationship with him and even the intimate details.

Now. 4 years since. She suddenly started behaving weird with me. Not making eye contact. Avoiding conversations and being excessively hostile towards only me. This continued for months.

She hadn't realized it and wouldn't accept it even once I had confronted her about this. Later I come to know through a mutual friend that Hannah was calling all our mutual friends to ask if I was in the wrong or the right, even going as far as getting angry with our friends when they couldn't agree with her.

She called people up and through them I came to know that she wanted me to apologize and get on my knees (is what i heard) to seek for forgiveness.

I have always felt a great sense of guilt towards this and also always felt that I owed her something. Never once was i rude towards her, so her being hostile towards me and singling me out came out of the blue and never have I initiated a conversation regarding him unless she adamantly egged me on to. I think she's got to realize, I was ready to face the consequence of dating her ex after 4 years of them having broken up but she (and all our mutual friends) completely and had wholeheartedly agreed to this making me feel that this was completely fine just for her to realize suddenly after 4 years of being okay with this that she wasn't happy about it and dragged my name before all of mine and her friends.

So reddit, AITAH for politely keeping distance from her when she after all of this decided that we should remain as close friends?