I (19M, gay) don’t think homewrecking is as bad as people make it out to be. Was there even a home to wreck to begin with, if it does happen?

I know this might sound controversial or even heartless to some, but I genuinely don’t see homewrecking as the big moral sin people make it out to be. In my opinion, if you want something in life — specifically, someone — you should go for it. Whether that person is single, taken, or even in a relationship with your best friend… why hold yourself back?

You only live once. If you constantly prioritize other people’s feelings over your own desires, you’ll be stuck wondering “what if?” for the rest of your life. I’ve pursued people who were already in relationships before, and I don’t regret it. It wasn’t out of spite or some desire to hurt someone — it was simply because I felt a connection and followed it.

It’s not rage bait. I’m not trying to start drama — just being real. I honestly think that if someone cheats, it’s because they were going to cheat anyway. So isn’t it better that it happens now instead of later, so their partner doesn’t waste more time in a relationship that’s already vulnerable?

And yeah, I don’t mind initiating flirting — even with married men. If they respond, that’s on them. I’m just curious if anyone else sees it like this or if I’m totally alone in this mindset.