My (31f) friend, I'll call her Ellie (29f) is getting married soon. I'm a bridesmaid. Both Ellie and her fiance/their families are very well off and having a fancy destination wedding in Italy. As you can imagine, it's all very expensive.

Ellie said she wanted us to wear lighter lipstick for the wedding. She's not paying for hair or makeup, so I just said that if she wants us to look a certain way, she's going to have to pay for it.

She got defensive and said its not a "big ask", but I got a bit annoyed because I'm brown and don't look good in light lipstick - I'm not going to go out of my way to look worse when its coming out of my pocket.

This turned into a major argument and I ended up quitting.

The other bridesmaids got involved and they're saying I acted like a bitch over something so small, and "badmouthed" Ellie. My other friends are on my side, so I thought to post here.

AITAH?