Not an English speaker.

I still don't know if it's the right moment because i'm still extremely angry but i will try.

For context: i was diagnosed with my issues and syndromes when i was 5 and during the years my uncle always helped me and was maybe too harsh on me but he helped me a lot with challenges and personal fears. My issues are the reason why i struggle a lot with physical touch, social anxiety and eye contact. I always tought at them like a curse or an injust punishment for something i don't know. And when i adopted Sofi(she is the daughter of my bestfriend who died of cancer and i adopted her after my bestfriend's gf disappeared out of nowhere and resigned any legal right on her) i clearly told my uncle to not tell Sofi anything about my issues until she was grown and i would feel like to talk with her about this.

For years everything went fine, I worked always more and more on my issues and Sofi obviously saw that i wasn't excatly the type of "dad" that gives a lot of huges and kisses but i'm working on it.

And all of this came out today. We were playing at home with our 2 dogs (a rescued puppy of german shepard and a rescued 1 year old Kangal) when she stopped to get to the kitchen to get some water and saw me smiling at our dogs and out of the blue said "daddy i'm proud of you, you have ..... and ...... but you worked a lot on them".

For a few moments i remained stunned like a statue but then asked her why and how she knew those things about me and she confessed me that 2 days ago (we flighted back to my old country because a friend of mine lost his wife in a car accident and i tried my best to support him) my uncle told her this and how proud he was of me and hoped she too would be resilient as me. I was on the edge to shout and yell but for a few moments i managed to stay calm and asked her if she wanted to play with Alfred and Punisher( my dogs name) in the garden and she immediatly accepted and run out with them. Here comes the "issue".

I immediatly called my uncle and when he picked up i raged at him asking him wtf was wrong with him for telling to an 8 years old my issues. He tried to defend himself by saying that he wanted to "inspire" her by becoming like me and something else but i was in full rage mod and told him that he made a fucking promise to me and he broke it because of his "it seemed a genuine thing to tell her" and hung up smashing the phone at the wall making crack the screen. (Tomorrow i will go to buy a new one)

I tried my best go calm down for like 20 minutes and called my parents through my smashed phone searching for reassurance but my uncle already called them and when i told them what happened they were on his side. Unfortunetly i'm not kidding, they clearly said that they agreed with him. So i raged even at them for the first time by telling them that my uncle broke the fucking promise and i couldn't trust him anymore. Obviously my parents tried to calm me down before a panick attack by i told them that i was extremely disappointed at them and hang up.( on my issues my parents always tried to make me think at what I have more like a "double sward" insted of a curse because yes on one side i have my problems and issues but on the other side i'm "insanely good" at my job like my boss tells me)

Right now i'm more "calm" (if it's the right world) but what they don't understand it's that only my parents, my grandparents and my uncle knows for real my issues and they know my hate for what i have and that i would give every euro i have to be normal like anyone else but my uncle couldn't shut the fuck up and told to a fucking 8 years old my problems like it was the most normal thing of this world doing the only thing i told him to not do.

But now that i'm more "calm" i'm here for some outside prospective. Should i call them and ask sorry or i should stick with my thought to not forgive my uncle?