Hey Redditors,

So, my boyfriend (32M) and I (27F) are in a relationship for almost 4 years, we're living together and we're doing great. It's a really healthy relationship. We almost never fight and if we do, we make up really quick. We have the same interests, same way of seeing life and we complement each other. He's more introverted, also very laid back, but sees a lot of risks in his ways. So he holds back a lot, even though he really wants to. I'm more extroverted, I like taking a risk and I can be very impulsive and kinda hyper. Believe it or not, it works. I bring him more out of his shell, and he makes me more rational at times.

So here is the deal: I really, really wanna marry this man! The sooner the better. I want him to put a ring around my finger and grow old with him. I love him and I like the idea of being with him forever and settling it on paper and a cute ceremony. I might be a little traditional about marriage, even though I'm absolutely not a traditional woman. I just really want him to propose to me.

My boyfriend is pretty neutral about marriage, like I said, he is laid back, and rather doesn't go out of his comfort zone. But also sees a lot of risks. He loves me, but if I wouldn't want to marry. I think he would be totally fine with that. He's also not the type that would throw a big party and he doesn't like to stay in the spotlight. And I'm the type of person that wants to make the day really special and I want us in the spotlight. This we know about each other, so would he propose, we have to accommodate.

So here is the thing: my boyfriend is still kinda scared and undecided about marriage, even though I really want to marry. I rather be proposed to yesterday, than tomorrow.

These are my wishes. I don't wanna wait 10 years before he proposes and another 10 years to marry. There might even be a chance that he will never propose, because he thinks marriage isn't that important in this economy. I told him my feelings and that it's a big deal for me, it would be a child's wish come true. So I said that I wanna be proposed in 5 years, and if not, my needs wouldn't be met. So that there would be a risk that I leave our relationship. (This wasn't a fight btw, but a healthy form of discussing our needs in our relationship).

any advise? AITAH for having different wishes for our future?