I (29M) fell out of touch with someone a few years ago due to distance and circumstances. I'm now married.

This person and I recently reconnected. It was a twist of fate sort of thing. They moved back to the area and were involved with an event my friend was hosting, then word got back to me. We began talking over social media, then texting. Once we met up, I realized just how much their health has taken a turn for the worse since we last spoke in person. They've always been sick but now things were pretty rough. I was warned over text but seeing it firsthand felt like a wake-up call.

It's just got me thinking about missed opportunities and where I'm heading in the future. I haven't told my spouse that we reconnected and all of this is dredging up some pretty intense, confusing feelings.

I've spoken to some really wise people in my life and have gotten a series of opinions but I'm feeling lost. I feel very much called to spend the next few days/months/years with this person, whatever's left. My mom knew them too and loves them, but thinks I shouldn't let my emotions lead me in this situation. She said I need to think about the future because when something happens, I'm going to be alone and rebuilding from that.

I don't know what to do. I thought throwing this out to some strangers might help me pool some different perspectives.