I (26F) work as a dental assistant at a private clinic with one dentist…Dr. Mark (41M). He’s charming, good looking and super confident. Patients love him and he’s well respected in our small town. I’ve worked here for 3 years and always kept things professional.

A few months ago, I noticed he started getting a little too flirty with certain female patients..complimenting their looks, lingering a bit too long in the room, making borderline inappropriate jokes when no one else was around. It made me uncomfortable, but I brushed it off, thinking maybe I was being too sensitive…Then one day, this new patient came in,a woman probably in her late 20s. After she left, Mark winked and said something like ‘Now that’s a reason to come to work.’ I laughed awkwardly, trying to ignore it lol

Fast forward to last week. That same woman comes back for a cleaning and after her appointment, I walk into the back room and overhear Mark on the phone…with her..flirting, making plans. It was very clearly personal and not dental related at all! Later that day, a woman storms into the office. Turns out..it was Mark’s wife. She somehow got wind of the affair and came to confront him. The waiting room was full and she was yelling, asking if it was true, demanding to know who the girl was and then… she turned to me. She said something like ‘You work with him. You must know. Is he cheating on me?’ My heart was pounding, but I looked his wife in the eye and said just like this ‘Yes. I think he’s been seeing someone who comes here. I’m sorry…..:(’ She walked out in tears. He looked at me like I just ruined his life. He hasn’t said much to me since, except to say I betrayed him and should’ve stayed out of it…. The next morning, he called me into his office and told me it wasn’t going to work out anymore. No formal write up. No explanation. Just a thanks for your time and I was out.

Now I’m at home, updating my resume and applying to other clinics, wondering if I did the right thing. I keep thinking about that moment…how scared and hurt his wife looked, and how badly I would've felt lying for him. I know I lost my job, but I also know I couldn’t have looked her in the eye and said nothing. So… AITAH?