AITAH for refusing to forgive my BF’s friend for leaving us stranded in a blizzard?

My bf (30M) & I (28F) went on a mountain trip with some of his friends: a 45M, a 29M, his wife (22F), & another 28M. Before we arrived, the 29M, 22F, & 28M left early for a concert, not waiting for us, even though we had planned to go together. We were later arriving because we were the ones stopping to get groceries.

I made sure to dress warmly & suggested to my bf & 45M that they layer up, but neither wanted to bring a rain jacket because it wasn’t supposed to rain. We Ubered to the venue since we planned on drinking & smoking. About 45 minutes in, it started sleeting. I wanted to leave, but the guys were having fun, so we stayed another 45 minutes.

We had originally coordinated with 28m’s mom that she would drive our car with 8 seats & pick us all up. We called 29m to try to find him he was mad & told her to drive her car instead which had 5 seats. He told us there “wasn’t room in the car for us.” It was 20 degrees & sleeting. We tried to find him, sent him our location, & requested his, & he had all sorts of excuses & would just hang up. Luckily I found a bus that was headed into the city. Bf was very drunk & said he would just walk to find an Uber & went to walk off into the mountains in the blizzard. I screamed at him & eventually got him & 45m on the bus.

Finally we made it down town. After being cancelled on multiple times by Ubers eventually one accepted the ride & headed our way. Meanwhile, my boyfriend & 45M wanted to walk, but I kept them in place for safety. When we got home, 29M & his friends hid in their rooms. It turned out that his mom hadn’t even been close to picking them up, & they had lied about the whole situation. The next morning, 29M tried to manipulate my bf & 45M into forgiving him, blaming them for everything. This wasn’t the first time he had caused issues; at a previous event he gave my bf way too much Molly swearing it was a safe amount which caused an OD. Then ran off when my boyfriend was in danger.

29M’s behavior had been toxic for a while. He’d tried to break up my relationship by spreading lies about me & pushing other women on my bf. My bf stands up for me to him. I refuse to forgive him, especially after intentionally leaving us in a blizzard, & I don’t want to spend time with him anymore. The others think I should forgive him, but I feel like I’ve had enough. AITAH for refusing to forgive him and saying I don’t want to spend time with him anymore?