Sorry for the long read!

I (20F) got into a disagreement with my girlfriend (20F) about Trump and his policies. While both of us are leftists, my girlfriend is significantly more right leaning than I am. (She is Israeli, supports Trump on his foreign policy regarding Israel. She thinks we should reduce foreign aid to both Israel and Ukraine.)The argument derailed and became a serious disagreement, ending in us breaking up. She called me toxic over a mistake stemming from a misunderstanding on my part, so I said she was free to leave if she was unhappy. AITAH? Please keep in mind we both use strong language regularly and lightheartedly threaten to leave each other.

This morning, she mentioned she was becoming more republican after seeing the war memorials in Washington DC. I said, "If you turn republican while trump or maga is in power I'll leave you". She began to argue that his foreign policy regarding wars is superior to that of the Biden or Harris administration. We debated, bringing up things such as his tariffs/trade wars and the ceasefire he helped create in Gaza. Essentially, she claims he is right about reducing funding to Ukraine. I brought up how Russia is America's enemy and how Putin would threaten America and Europe should he gain control of Ukraine. We eventually reached a consensus that it would be nice if the US reduced funding to both Israel and Ukraine. Then, she said Biden increased America's debt significantly, saying, "Yeah and whose fault is that". I thought she was referring to the civilian casualties of women and children in Gaza when she said that. She is Israeli and has said similar things in the past. I lost my composure and began to attack her, saying, "You fucking disgust me you piece of shit". I admit, I am definitely in the wrong here for escalating so quickly.

The next part of the argument is where we cannot come to agreement. She called me toxic for calling her disgusting and a piece of shit. Again, I thought she meant that the civilians in Gaza deserve the bloodshed and constant suffering just because most of them support Hamas. Because she called me toxic, I said, "if I make you that unhappy then fucking leave". She replied, "Got it I don’t wanna date you bye go fuck off". We compared each other to Trump, I justified my language by saying she was expressing disgusting opinions, and said if she was unhappy then she should leave two more times. She claims me telling her she could leave was threatening. (I did not mean it in a threatening manner, I was only making a statement). She says she wants to break up almost every time we argue; she just doesn't say she wants to break up with me specifically. Whenever we'd "break up" in the past, she just treats me like normal and we eventually end up back together. Thats why I asked her if she really wanted to break up, and she said no. I questioned her if she was serious, and she didn't give me a definite answer. I got angry and said she should follow through with it and "grow a fucking spine". She asked me if I wanted to (at no point in this conversation had I expressed that I wanted to break up) and I said don't "factor into this". Then I told her I was not going to keep putting effort into this relationship if she didn't give me a definite answer. I absolutely did not want to return back to our normal relationship without some kind of a resolution, so I said I wanted to stop being friends.

She said I was toxic and manipulative. I agree, I definitely could have kept my temper better and there are parts of the argument that I'm not proud of. However, I don't think I was wrong for telling her that if she wasn't happy, she was free to leave. AITAH?

Here is a link to a screen recording of some of the argument, if anyone wants to check. I am the white messages. https://files.fm/u/7za8jrpf4t