Quickly, I just wanted to mention that,

1. English is not my first language, and I am dyslexic, so I apologize for any spelling errors, I do use a spell check so hopefully that'll save my spelling.
2. And this is an account I made specifically for this post, as I don't know if that side of my family uses Reddit, and if they do, I don't want to find my main account.

I (F,24) recently had a friend who I've known for years tell me I should forgive my uncle and try to get along with him again after he tried to take me away from my mom when I was 10. I disagree, but I've started to doubt myself recently, and I just want to know that I'm not crazy for not wanting to forgive or talk to him again.

First here's some backstory: when I was 9 my parents split up(not divorced, they were never married). The split-up was a mutual decision, but it wasn't peaceful in any way. They argued a lot and couldn't be in the same room without yelling at one another. My mom tried to keep it to a minimum and not argue when I was there, but it didn't work that well. During this time, my mom's brother, my uncle/godfather, would not only agree with my father and take his side no matter the argument but was also verbally abusive to my mom(his sister) and my grandmother(his own mom). After my parents split up, my mother won custody, and I had to stay with my father every other weekend. My mom tried to push for more as my father was emotionally(also physically, but that was rarer) abusive toward me, my older sister, and our mom. However, since my father was a beloved member of our town and there wasn't really any evidence this couldn't be taken up in court, and my mom didn't want to risk prolonging the case, as she was also very scared of my father and was worried what strings he could pull is she said anything.

My father died a year later of a blood clot in the brain, and I was the one who found him dead in his home. When I found him, I ran to the neighbors screaming for help, some of them went into the house to check, another neighbor drove me home to my mom where everything was explained. My mom quickly took me to my grandmother's as she had to pick up my older sister from work and didn't want me to be alone. I woke up later to loud yelling and went to the kitchen to see what was going on, my grandmother was arguing with my uncle and his wife on the front steps. When he saw me he tried to tell me to come with him and that he would take care of me, after I didn't give an answer or move he went to try and grab me but my grandmother slapped him and then pushed him out the door(she was amazing).

However, this was far from the first and only thing he did. Later on during my father's funeral, he asked both my mom, grandmother, and elder sister to leave as they were not welcome, he also yelled that they were the reason my father died and several times gave them the finger during the funeral service, and even pointed them towards the door.

A month or so later he tried to go to court with my eldest half-sister from my father's side who was 10 years older than me and with her and her mother's help tried to take custody away from my mom. Claiming that she was unfit due to her depression and that she was financially unable to take care of me as she was on government funding at the time. Luckily my mom won the case and I stayed with her. He then later spread the roomer that my father's death was my mom's fault all around town, however since I live on a relatively small island the rumor spread fast and my mom had to endure a lot of isolation and hatred from those who loved my father.

I didn't know a lot of this until a year later when my mom and grandmother told me(I was taken in during the court case/custody hearing but I was 10 and don't think I fully understood what was happening at the time). After being told this I rang him and told him that if that was how he treated my family then I refused to call him part of my family and that I would never forgive him for what he had done and said to my mom, older sister, and grandmother. Since then I haven't heard from him or those who took his side, but since it is a small island I do see him in a supermarket from time to time but I try my best to avoid him and his wife.

So Reddit AITAH for not forgiving my uncle for what he did?

If you have any questions, I will try my best to answer them.