i (24f) have been friends with samantha (25f) since high school. we’ve always been super close, and i’ve supported her through a lot of tough situations. a couple of months ago, she announced she was getting married to luke (27m), a guy she’s been dating for about a year. luke is… well, he’s not the nicest guy. he’s rude, disrespectful, and i’ve seen him be downright mean to her in public, especially when they argue. i’ve never been a fan of him, but i’ve always kept my thoughts to myself because it’s her relationship, and i didn’t want to meddle.

when she told me she was getting married, i congratulated her but was honest about my concerns. i said that i had doubts about luke’s behavior, but she brushed it off and said that i just “didn’t understand their relationship.” she also told me that i was being “overprotective” and that i didn’t have the right to judge someone she loved. i tried to be supportive, but something about the whole thing felt off.

when the wedding invite came in the mail, i was torn. i thought about going, but the more i thought about it, the more i realized that i just couldn’t support this union. i didn’t want to be there pretending everything was fine when i felt like she was making a mistake. so, i told her i wouldn’t be attending. i explained that i couldn’t celebrate something i didn’t fully support, especially given my concerns about luke.

she was furious. she accused me of abandoning her and said that i was ruining our friendship over something petty. now, she’s telling everyone that i’m being “dramatic” and “unsupportive,” and some mutual friends are siding with her. i feel bad, but i also feel like i’m doing the right thing by being honest about my feelings. i don’t want to be a part of something that feels wrong to me.

AITAH for refusing to go to my friend’s wedding because i don’t support her decision?