Hey Reddit! I'm going to keep this anonymous but I have a a little situation blow out of proportion so I need to opinions here. I F/20 just moved out of my home state to attend college. My friend, I'll call her K (f/20) invited me to live her and a friend in a townhouse which is what ultimately brought me to this school I'm going to. The other girl, who this is about, I'll call B (F/20). I'm new to renting and this is my first time. We have a communal washer and dryer. No set schedule on who's washing clothes that day. This is where all the drama started. I had just gotten back from a trip and I wanted to wash my clothes before I went to work the next morning. I saw some clothes in the dryer and figured I'll be helpful and throw them in the dryer for her (B). The clothes felt damp and seemed to be sitting in the washer for a long period of time. My roommate B had gotten home and I had mentioned I put her clothes in the dryer. She immediately ran to the dryer, said "thanks you ruined it" ran downstairs grabbed her phone and locked herself in her room. She was very very upset. I just stood in shock because I didn't know about anything not going into the dryer and there were no notes or text saying to leave the clothes where they were. I was frantic because I didn't know what was going on and i immediately texted her and apologized and said I would pay for the expensive hoodie that got ruined, I guess it had an ink stain on it and by putting it in the dryer I had made it set in. This is was the week of spring break so I decided to drive back to my home town just to get away from the situation. She texted me and asked if I could pay for the hoodie, and I asked if she could try to get the stain out or take it to a dry cleaner. She said she already took it to the dry cleaners and that didn't work. I assumed that if the hoodie was already taken to the dry cleaners and they couldn't fix it, there wasn't much else to do. I talked to my friends and family and they all agreed I SHOULDNT pay for the hoodie since I didn't know and she got the ink on it. I agreed but I was hesitant to tell her no I wouldn't pay. Fast forward we both are home from spring break and K tells me I also shrunk this hoodie when I put it in the dryer. B never had mentioned the hoodie shrinking until she brought it up to K. I did feel bad about that. I immediately pulled her aside and asked her about it. She told me she was embarrassed about the whole thing and I agreed and apologized for not texting her about it in the first place and just throwing the clothes in the dryer without thinking. I had mentioned about pay and I also mentioned that I had a discount code for the hoodie. From what I remember, she said that the discount was fine and that I DID NOT need to pay. I agreed with just giving her the discount code and that was a month ago. Today, I came home with a few bags of clothes that were on sale since I needed some t-shirts and groceries. I told her about it and then went up to my room for about an hour. When I came downstairs she brought up paying half of the hoodie. I was confused and said that I thought we agreed on the discount code. She said that it was half her fault for ruining the hoodie, but also half my fault. I was honestly shocked and I don't do well with confrontation. I said I couldn't afford that right now and she asked about the clothes I had gotten. I told her they were on sale and cheap. I feel bad for this, but I said I can see what I can do, leading her on to the fact that I'll pay. I immediately went to my dads house because I was just uncomfortable with how the conversation went. I told him what happened and after talking with him and some other friends I wrote kind of a passive aggressive text saying I wouldn't be paying for the hoodie. I told her I didn't appreciate her bringing up what I buy, how we agreed for me to give her the discount code, and how if she already took it to the dry cleaners it probably was ruined before I had anything to do with it. She writes back that I shouldn't have put her clothes in the dryer without asking her (which I 100% agree on and haven't touched her clothes since) and that since I offered in the first place I should pay. It was a heated argument and I ended up just leaving her on read. I still stand firm that I will not pay, but I'd like to hear outside perspective on this. AITAH for not paying?