I (20f) have been dating my boyfriend Luke (21m) for 6 months. It’s important to note that Luke will be joining the military soon, so he doesn’t have a car nor a job at the moment. It’s also important to note that I have a good job as a medical provider and have a busted car but I don’t care because I bought it with my own money in full when I was 17.

Edit: further note; Luke lives with his parents and sometimes Joe comes to the house for supplies and to stay some nights. I go to Luke’s house often

Luke has a brother named Joe (23m) and he has a wife Angela (21f) who are probably the most problematic couple I’ve ever seen. They both do drugs, steal and yell a dog they chose to have. They also are homeless but jump from house to house if not on the street. Recently Joe has stolen a phone from Luke and Joe has stolen some other stuff to pawn because times are hard for him. I understand but it has caused a strain on Luke’s entire family.

A few months back, Joe and his wife asked me to give them a ride to a hotel room their friends are staying at. It wasn’t far so I did. Joe didn’t thank me but his wife did. Whatever. A month later Joe asked Luke if I could take him to the gas station for some cigarettes when the gas station was of walking distance. I really didn’t want to because me and Luke just got back from a date but I didn’t say anything and just did it.

A few weeks ago while me and Luke were having a day out he gets a call from his brother crying. Saying he’s in pain and needs him to pick up some pain killers for him. Luke asked me if it I wanted to drive and go do it but I really didn’t want to. But as a medical provider, I know what it’s like when someone is in pain and they just wanted to stop so I said yes. I drove about an hour and a half going to pick up the medicine and finding where he was staying at the time in a city 30 minutes away. When we met back with Joe, he asked “what’s wrong with the front of your car?” (It has a medium dent in it, that’s how I purchased it years ago) I told him it came like that, he said laughed and said yeah right. Then Luke told him this will be the last time we can help him because driving long distances at night isn’t good for me.

Yesterday me and Luke were watching tv after I came home from work. We hear a bang on the front door. It’s Joe and Angela. Angel says is OP here? Luke says yes and she immediately asks for a ride to her new job that she’s already late to. Joe came in to ask me, “do you want $10” I said I guess and he asked me to take Angela to work. I really didn’t want to get up I had an exhausting week but I said yes anyways. I drove her to her job 25 minutes away and she left my car smelling like ass. She then told me she doesn’t know how she’s going to get back and I feel like that was her way of prying for another ride. I said maybe Joe’s stepmother is willing and she said his stepmother didn’t like her because she attempted suicide in their house when in reality she recently told Joe that she would falsely accuse every man in Luke’s house of assault if she didn’t get what she wanted.

I feel like I may be an asshole because they’re homeless for the most part and in need. At one point my parents were but on the other hand it’s not my responsibility to be the crutch for them. They’re not my children or immediate family. Maybe I’m just more fortunate to have a good job at such a young age and purchase my own vehicle go wherever I want but that’s something they should’ve thought of before having a child and getting married. Also, I realized they wouldn’t even be asking Luke for help if I wasn’t around because he can’t provide transportation. Joe didn’t even thank me one time, instead thanked Luke when I’m the one that drove and didn’t even pay most other times.

So tell me AITAH for not wanting to help them anymore?

Edit 2: my boyfriend has never pressured or forced me to help them, he just asked if I wanted to and I said yes. He then apologized and made it up to me and put his foot down for Joe.