So, I recently moved into a new apartment and had a housewarming party with a few friends to celebrate. Everything was going fine—people were eating, drinking, chatting, and checking out the place. But then my friend Carla (24F), who is super into art and is always talking about “creative expression,” comes up to me with a wild idea.

She told me that she wanted to paint my walls during the party as a form of “emotional graffiti.” She said it would be an amazing representation of my “energy” and that she could “capture the essence of the space” by splattering paint all over my living room, which was still mostly empty.

I’m all for creativity, but the idea of random paint splashes on my white walls kind of freaked me out. I told her that I wasn’t comfortable with her painting my walls at a party, especially since I hadn’t even had time to properly settle in yet. Plus, the place was rented, and I wasn’t sure how it would look afterward. She got upset, saying I was “stifling her creative vision” and that she was just trying to make my housewarming more “memorable” and “authentic.”

I suggested maybe she could paint a canvas or a small piece of wood instead, but she said that wasn’t the same and that it had to be the walls for it to truly represent my “emotional space.” Now she’s acting cold and saying I’m “too attached to material things” and that I’m not open to new experiences.

AITAH for refusing to let her paint my walls with “emotional graffiti” during my housewarming party?