so, i (23f) have a roommate (let's call her sarah, 24f) and recently, my sister (29f) came over to visit. she brought one of her friends (emma, 25f) with her, who i’ve only met a couple of times before.

last year, i went through a pretty rough patch. i had some health issues, then work stress, and just couldn’t get myself together emotionally. my depression hit hard, and to be honest, i wasn’t the best at keeping up appearances. i wasn’t always out of bed, barely managing to make meals, and missed a lot of social events. it was a tough time, but i was getting through it.

emma, however, wasn’t exactly empathetic. at a family gathering last year, i was sitting quietly by myself, trying to get a grip on things, when she came over to me and said, "you know, you just need to pull yourself together. this whole ‘depression’ thing is just people making excuses to be lazy." i was stunned. i didn’t know what to say at the time, so i just nodded, but honestly, it hurt. she even laughed and told a few people, in front of me, that "you can't be sad if you’re not even trying to be happy."

now, fast forward to this past weekend — my sister asks if emma can stay with us for a couple of nights because emma’s place was “under renovation.” i said no, flat-out, and my sister was really upset, saying that emma needed somewhere to crash and that i was being “too sensitive” about something that happened so long ago.

i told my sister that i didn’t feel comfortable having someone who had so little respect for my mental health in my home. she got really defensive and told me i was being petty and that it’s just one night, i should be over it by now.

but, honestly, i’m still hurt by how emma treated me. she never apologized, and now, i feel like it’s about protecting my peace.

so… aitah for refusing to let emma stay, even if my sister is mad?