I have three roommates and have never really gotten along with them. In the beginning of the fall semester, they were never in the dorm and had boyfriends that they spent a lot of time with (they all broke up a few months ago). I tried to make plans with them twice and was either ignored or canceled at the last minute. After a few months of quiet or awkwardness, my dorm bedroom (we all have our own rooms) started getting very hot, and my fan was not much help. So I began turning down the thermostat a bit. Apparently my roommates had an issue with it because one night I noticed that the thermostat was taped so I couldn't change it. A few days later there was a post-it note up. Nobody ever came to me directly, they just did childish stuff like this. 

We had a dispute a few weeks ago, because they kept moving my ShopRite bags that I temporarily left in the common room (that were not in the way at all). I had a ton of stress that day already, so I sent them a text message calling them out on multiple things. I was immediately gaslighted by all three of them. I even brought up the tape on the thermostat in other texts but that would go ignored by them.

Yesterday I had a guy over in my bedroom (again we all have our own rooms). We have hung out in my room a few times now, and like every college "situationship" goes, we were having sex. We tried to be quiet, well I shushed him a few times lol. I guess the bed was loud because shortly after my phone blew up from my roommates. Only one of them was in the room at the time, but it was hard to tell at first since the dorm was completely quiet. Whenever they are here, they are always super loud. Anyways, they still all bombarded me over text. 

The messages made me feel like I was being slut-shamed. "This isn’t a brothel" one of them said. "today it honestly sounded like someone was trying to install a shelf with a hammer drill. We already mentioned it once, so please just keep the volume (and the impact) down a notch. 🩷" Now this did happen again back in October, but that was a long time ago and a different man. Ever since then I have been super embarrassed and worked on being more quiet. 

Once the girls got home a few minutes later, they were in the common room throwing things and banging items together. They also stood outside my door, purposely yelling to each other. I truly felt like this moment was borderline harassment. The guy I've been seeing (who is also a student here so he isn't a stranger) was super uncomfortable. He continuously told me that he couldn't believe their behavior and that they were acting like children. 

That same night, I told my therapist what happened, including screenshots of the text messages. She suggested I report them to the school, so that same night I did.

I no longer feel comfortable leaving my room or walking in when someone else is in the common room. I don't know what would happen, and I do still feel a bit embarrassed. 

This morning I went to public safety to file a harassment report, but once I told them that these girls were my roommates, they stopped taking me seriously. I also went to the Title IX office, who were glad to help. They contacted Resident Life but they did not get a response yet. 

Other friends I have talked to were shocked by the behavior from my roommates as well. I honestly don't know how to feel anymore. I think the messages could have been a little nicer, especially since only 1 of the girls was in the dorm at the time. I feel like I am maybe thinking too far into this and that I deserve it, but it does not feel right at the same time.

That is not even the end of it. They condescendingly called me a whore over text, meanwhile they have one of their negative pregnancy tests posted up on the fridge, and always loudly talk about men and their dicks. One of the girl's boyfriends also hangs out with the other two roommates while the girlfriend is sleeping in the room next to mine, which is very strange. It seems like they really do identify the dorm as a "brothel."