I feel like there is so much to this story, I don’t really know where to begin. To start, my husband and I are in our early 30’s. We both work full time and make minimum wage. We also have a two year old son. There is no village to help, it’s just my husband, myself, and my mom that helps with our son.

To just dive in, it feels like since our son was born my life completely changed overnight and my husband’s stayed exactly the same.

(It’s feels like I’m doing everything and it’s killing me. I feel miserable almost every single day.)

For a bit of background, I’m the one that seems to get things done. I don’t pay all the bills myself but I make sure they all get paid (if that makes sense). I have all the logins and make sure bills and everything is lined up and paid each month. This was a decision we made at the beginning of our marriage, simply because I’m more organized…I also do all the laundry. The dishes. Anything for my son - bathing, dressing him, feeding him.

We also have 2 small dogs, and two house cats. I am also in charge of watering and feeding, cat litter, etc.

It just feels so overwhelming. My husband helps a little bit it’s something I feel like I have to ask for. Otherwise, he acts or is just unaware of everything that needs done. But I feel like I can’t do everything and it’s killing me.

When he gets home from work, he eats dinner to himself and listens to his headphones…which is very lonely to be honest. For me. Then he might interact with our son a little bit before I get him ready for bed. At bedtime, I fall asleep with our son around 8 or 9. Usually with the intent of getting back up but I almost never do out of exhaustion.

There is always so much my husband could do around the house once we’ve gone to bed. However, this is his time to play videos games and he will stay up late or into the morning playing.

My son wakes me around 6am and that’s when my day starts, even on the weekends… every morning I get myself and our son ready. Then I take him to my mom’s or to work with me. And on the weekends, we get up while my husband sleeps in….

It’s just so exhausting. I’ve asked him to just atleast take over our bill payments each month. Just something to take off my shoulders. He refuses.

It’s weird because we do get a long normally and he is someone I’ve always considered my best friend. But I’m not happy and I feel like he doesn’t care. He’s got it made for him.