My cousin (27) and me (28) went out of town for her birthday about week ago. She had been planing this trip for since January and invited two of her friends to come. While planning the trip her friends decided they wouldn't be able to go and it was just going. This was a problem because we had already picked an airbnb out and now we had to find something last minute. Since we were trying to find something both us were looking, I happened to find something first and ended up you my card to pay for the hotel(this comes up later in the story).

Fast foward to the day that we are leaving, we were supposed to leave at 9 so we could do some activies before we checked into our room, but my cousin isn't really the punctual type and we ended up leaving at 1 in the afternoon. We get there right at check in and couldn't do anything we had planned for earlier that day. We had a great time the first day and the vibes were great.

The second day is when tensions started to rise. It started in the morning when I woke up she had gone to get breakfast, but the problem is it was charged to my card because I'm the one who booked the room. It was only fifteen dollars and she said she was going to pay me back but it kind of rubbed me the wrong way because she didn't call and ask me if it was ok before doing it. I was already close to my limit with my card because I had just got us concert tickets and they had already taken the money for the room plus the deposit. I didn't want to ruined the morning so I just let it go. Fast forward to the afternoon we went to a pier amusement park and was having a good time, and then she had to go the bathroom. I didn't have to go so I just decided to wait for her. It had been about twenty minutes before I decided to go in to see what was taking her so long. When I walked she was taking pictures and that really annoyed me because she knew I was waiting on her and on top of that it was really hot outside and felt like she being inconsiderate. I did let her know that I was annoyed and we continued on with our afternoon.

The real problem began when we were at a bar. They had a jukebox and you could pay to play a song from your phone. To do it you could go and scan a QR code on the jukebox to get the app. I was trying to explain that to her but she kept trying to ask the bartender how to do it, and while I was trying to tell her how to do it she said I was yelling at her. I don't think I was yelling I thought I was just trying to get her to understand how to do it without bothering the bartender. Later on that night I decided to play a song, by one of my favorite artist, which we happen to be going to her concert this summer. While listening to the song she mentions that she hopes that she only play her old music. I then let her know that this is a tour for her last album and she probably won't play to much of her old music and mostly songs from the new album. She then goes on to say she will probably just go to the bathroom while she is performing because she thinks she is a witch and a siren a bunch of other supernatural things. Side note when I first got the tickets she said something like she was going to put earplugs in her ears because she was scared to listen to her music but she told me to still get the tickets so I didn't take her serious. She keeps making little remarks like that so I told her I would just find someone else to go with me. After that I did have little attitude, because I felt like she was being inconsiderate knowing that she is one of favorite artist and she taking away my excitement from the experience. I also felt a way because I went to a concert with her to an artist I don't care for but I didn't let her know that because I knew how much she love that artist and I didn't want to ruin her experience I know she has love her since we were little kids. I tried to make the most out of it, and I didn't make any negative remarks, and I just felt like she wasn't doing the same for me.

So after that exchange she could tell my mood had shifted, and I also told her I was ready to go. I was silent on the way back to the hotel and when we got back to the room. Im the type of person, I would rather let my emotions calm down before I say anything becauase I don't want something small to turn into something bigger. She is not like that, so when we got to the hotel she asked me if I was going to be quiet for the rest of the night and said yes. I continued to get my things together and get ready for bed so I wouldn't have a lot to do in the morning before check. While I'm doing that she decided to turn on some music, when she first turned it on she was playing rap/ r&b music and I asked her if she could turn it off because I was about to go to sleep. She replied with a no and said it was to much tension in the room. I went to the bathroom washed my face and change and when I came out she was still playing music but change it to gospel. I asked her again to turn it off but she replied this and said no she needed to get her mood right. I asked her again and by this time I was getting annoyed, it was around 1:30 in the morning and I was the one driving a 3 hour ride in the morning so I just wanted to get in the bed and go to sleep. She said no again so I decide to press pause on her laptop she pressed play so I pressed pause again. She pressed play again so I decided to reach over and get her speaker to turn it off. While I'm trying to turn the speaker off she decide to put me in a choke hold form behind, so I pulled her hair to get her off of me. When she finally let go all she could talk about is how I pulled her hair and how I'm doing all of this over an artist. I told her its not about them its the principal and how every time I bring the concert up she says something negative about, and how I didn't do that to her when we went to see her favorite artist, but she was not trying to her anything I was saying and just kept saying how worship this artist and a lot of other things I honestly can't remember. I left to my car to go cool for about 30 minutes and when I came back she was still playing music. She finally turned it off but was talking even though I had stopped she was still cussing and trying to argue. I was so tired and drained I didn't even say anything a just tried to go to sleep.

When it came time to leave, I let her know that we weren't doing anything we had planed on doing that day before we left to home, and that we were leaving an hour before check out(she was already packed and ready to go). While we were about to leave she just kept saying little things under her breath. I was telling her I'm not saying anything to her so let's have a quiet car ride back home but she just talking and I really felt like she trying to antagonize me and make me mad. All she could say is how I ruined her birthday and how I pulled her hair for no reason the night before. So AITAH and did I ruin her birthday?