EDIT: This post is mainly intended for people with similar experiences in my position and what I should do. This is not an invite to come harass me in the comments over a joke and to bring up irrelevant topics for a comparison because you're mad I vented about my experience.

I (19F) was hit on while grocery shopping in Walmart. See, I'm a lesbian but obv I don't wear a big flag everywhere I go and I'm a femme who dresses feminine.

First, he asked if I was single and I told him no because I didn't want him asking me or really even talking to me. He still tries to ask me out anyway and I looked at him and said no I don't and left the store.

It kind of annoyed me and I made a joke on my close friends note thing on instagram that I hate men.

My friend (20M) replied to it boo-ing me. I thought he knew I was joking when I said it so I told him what happened with the guy and added on the fact it sucks bc i'm a lesbian and i don't dress for men, like do not approach me. Again, I felt like it was a clear I was joking given it made it sound hella dramatic on purpose.

I guess he didn't realise because he got mad and said I shouldn't use my "romantic preferences for hate" (not that me liking women is a preference either. I can't control my sexuality. I just so happen to be a lesbian.)

I told him I was just joking and he just went "oh sure you are" and I reaffirmed I was and if I actually hated men, I wouldn't be friends with them.

He compared me saying that to a white person saying "I have black friends". It ended up being my breaking point because I didn't see how it's comparable at all— especially as a woman saying that about men who have power over me versus a white person with power over a black person.

He said he wasn't comparing it but it was giving the same vibe and I got pissed and now I'm thinking about not being friends with him anymore.

Am I the asshole? Am I overreacting?

EDIT: This joke is in response to the fact this is the second time I've had a man not take no for an answer within two weeks. It wasn't because I'm a lesbian— the lesbian part was the joke I made but I jokingly said I hate men in response to being harassed. Just to clarify for people confused in the replies and for more context.

It was also a private comment made to like four people which is what the close friends list is. He's made the joke himself before.