Edit: I don’t mind meeting his girlfriend another time, even the day before or whenever. My only wish was to have just the six of us together for my milestone birthday. Even my other brother’s legit girlfriend of years, who we love, isn’t joining.

Disclaimer: my oldest brother lies a lot.

My brother is supposedly engaged to a girl from Malaysia that he has never met. He posted her on his relationship status on Facebook, but she has not done the same for him. I’m wondering if she even likes him. He is very unhealthy physically and mentally.

I have never spoken to this girl, but my brother claims that she blocked me on Facebook and doesn’t like me. The reason she apparently doesn’t like me is because he secretly had her on video chat when we were having a private sibling conversation (with our other brother and his GF) in which I expressed my concern for him getting in a relationship with someone he’s never met. They also expressed concerns. I expressed concern about reminding me of 90 day fiancée and questioned if he knows her well enough to know if she’s even a real female. He never told us that she was listening in on our private conversation.

ANYWAYS… We’ve been planning my 30th birthday for a few months. It’s in August. My brother originally claimed that he got days off approved so that we could all be together, my one birthday wish.

We got on a family phone call today where my brother said he couldn’t take time off anymore. Therefore, we decided we’d all go to his home area of Florida to accommodate him. Suddenly he says that he is having his fiancée visit during that time…

At the end of all his bullshit, I say that’s fine. My only request changed from being a family trip to just a family dinner for the 6 of us.

He now says he won’t attend my birthday dinner if his fiancée isn’t invited.

Once again, he’s created random problems with some girl I don’t know. He says she blocked me, doesn’t want to meet me, etc. He’s saying she has a right to block me on Facebook but that it is wrong of me to not invite her to my birthday dinner.

Please tell me. Is asking for a family only dinner on my actual birthday when we’ve flown across the country to accommodate him making me the asshole here?