So bit of back story, myself f25 and my boy friend M27 have been together for 2 years.

When I first met him, lets call him Bob he was on the drug scene, most people are his age, i myself am not but aslong as it wasn’t around me I didn’t care and didn’t seem very often, flash forward his dad passes away, which I can relate and support to as my mum passed away a few years ago as well, so I know how hard this can be. But this seemed to jump start an issue.

Bob never seemed to have a problem with drugs before always seemed to be a casual thing if it was a special event, but after his dad passed it seemed to have picked up a bit more, every weekend sometimes on a week day.

We get to Christmas time 2024, and I am sat at home just finding out from my doctor I have a heart condition, I call him and he is out, he said he will stay out for a bit longer and come home, I’m scared and stressing about what I just found out, I fall asleep and wake up around 5am he is still out with friends I am fuming.

Next I start seeing him turn up to dates clearly having taken it, he proceeds to lie to me on serval occasions I believe I am going crazy, but the eyes never lie to you, you can always tell, this is happening so frequently he hasn’t had a weekend off! He knows how hurt I get about it, how worried I am and he continues to do it. I catch him in my living room at 4am on his own doing it.

This is continuing for months, we are now April 2025, we just got back from holiday, where he promised he would stay off it completely, and the holiday with his family would give him a head start, as he won’t be able to get it, not 8 hours being back in the country he has done it again. It’s seriously impacting my feelings for him as I feel I am constantly nagging him about it.

So I have no threaten to tell his mum, if you don’t stop and I find out you have done it again, I’m telling her!

He is begging me not to tell her, as she is not doing the best mentally and this would break her, but I am at a loss on what to do now.