i am 21f and my grandma is 75f. for context i was in a horrible living situation with my dad and stepmom for 2018-2022. living in a nice neighborhood in the middle of butt-f*ck, but my step mom was awful. verbal and emotional abuse. the works. also my grandma and i are on opposite sides of politics. we have talked about politics before but it ends the same because FOX news is all she watches. we just agree to disagree.

i have made it clear since i was out of their house to not mention any of them. my dad? okay. my step mom and her children? no. politics has been a touchy subject with us since around 2017 and i’ve asked her to not talk about it around 2019. since then, she has not respected my boundaries. more than just the two mentioned. i live with her. i can’t ask a simple question like “are we out of colby jack cheese?” without her talking about how biden messed up the prices. literally not what i asked? in passing while im doing laundry and she’s chopping veggies she will mention something my step mom said, and it will set me off for days. 1-3 days of rage thinking about what happened to me in that house and how im reminded of it constantly.

also for context when my boyfriend isn’t here she comes in and without knocking. she wakes me up (my sleep schedule is messed upppp) at like 9am when ive been asleep for 2-3 hours asking if i want to come with her to a doctors appointment. ive never gone to an appointment with her unless she asks days or weeks beforehand. she interrupts my sleep to ask that when i literally have somewhere to be at noon. or she will constantly try to wake me up HOURS before i need to be up making me exhausted for work or appointments.

today i had enough. i had a full crying angry breakdown about how bad it effects me. the politics, the bad house i lived in, waking me up several times before i need to go to work-making my days miserable on redbulls, etc.

am i the asshole for getting mad at her and having a breakdown about her not respecting my boundaries?