Hello reddit i just want your opinions on this situation.

I 30(M) and my gf 35(F) have been distant with each other for a bit even though its a long-distance relationship but we used to always tell each other everything but lately feels like she's been pushing me and I've asked her if theirs anything bothering you call me ill be here for you communicate with me she said she would try a little back story I know she is going through a divorce and no i didn't hook up with her right after the divorce or destroyed her marriage and the father of the kids is withholding the kids cause he still in love with her when he been abusive and emotionally manipulated her she used to have her kids every other week but he pulled a shit move and denied her of having the kids over anymore. But before the situation got like this when we were talking i felt like i was the only one trying to put effort to get a conversation going do little stuff like host watch night while she didn't do any of that and at some point I told im not going to keep trying to do these stuff anymore if you aren't going to try to put in effort and she promised me that she would put in effort we went days of just of our short conversation with just how are we doing and whats the weather like and rest of the day nothing im telling myself maybe she trying baby steps weeks go by and i have to tell her again how am i feeling that i want you to try putting effort into srarting conversation or setup date night or something cause in those she done nothing but give simple responses she said once again i promise so i believed her and once again she didn't do it for weeks and we share our location so we know we are Safe despite the situation but we would tell each other where we are going but lately she hasn't and i would ask her what she doing hanging with friends then im like okay have fun this goes on for awhile then i see her at 1am at a park ask her what is she doing out so late i get no response i call her straight to voicemail now at this point im overthinking im losing my shit i can't sleep now im thinking the worst shit possible cause she hasn't given me a reason to trust her when i have to interrogate her to tell me now what she is doing when she used to just tell me beforehand then avout 40mins- 1hr later she finally tells me i went out with a friend cause her bf being abusive to her so im here to calm her down ontold her you should of told me something you have me overthinking now and she goes off on me saying you don't trust me and i told her okay have fun from now own just don't tell me where you are going i honeatly don't want to know more cause now im going to overthink what you are doing and she goes im still going to tell you where im going and what im doing and i just said okay do what you want i can't stop you conversation end there. Days i get nothing and days i do receive something and I told her once again please don't send me your location if your going to be so inconsistent when she wants to tell me once again she said im still going to tell you regardless its a mistake that i don't tell you and some other excuses im like whatever im already here breaking bit by bit when she says thing like I promise she uses it so lightly but never commits to the promise or make an attempt and stops entirely fast [forward a few days ago she said she going out with a friend and head to her house i said cool have fun gave a me a few updates of the day and stopped half way cause she told me before what she was doing i didn't recieve if she was going to drop off her friend home till asked her the next day hey did you drop off your friend cause you stopped giving me updates im assuming you went to drive but im glad your home safe her response she says oh sorry didnt update you but she slept over im going to go shopping with her ( i forgot to mention about another event that happened few days ago i forgot to add it ill write here so talking to her friends I don't mind her having guy friends but what i do mind is if your telling another person aside from your partner that hes good looking even if you are joking and after that she has become a joke of a couple of the group shes in and i told her she should of never said that even if what she was doing was mimicking another person saying that to your friend that disrespectful to me she defended herself saying its just joke so what and the next day conversation where the same person who in the group the start making fun of her saying like oh my gf has him by the balls and other rhetorical jokes of couple i for one don't like that cause of she has said and become that mess when ever they argue lovers quarrel so yeah) continuing here i askednher for a picture together with her friend and she went mad with me saying i don't trust and i laid it out to her you right i dont trust you haven't been giving me room to trust you like i did before you been inconsistent with your actoons and words we got into a huge fight i told her just take the picture just to stop my overthinking she didnt do it went back and forth she sent her friend home and went out then she ask me do you think i was with a man and I told her yes cause you haven't given me a reason to believe you I told her how i been feeling and everything and you haven't done anything to soothe my overthinking with everything that you been doing everything i been noticing and you leave out no were both hurt cause she said she would never do that to me but im hurt fause i been constantly telling her how im feeling and i wasn't recieving the reciprocation or feeling validated in the relationship i was being forgotten when ever she was with her friend or doing something else so here we are am i the AITAH For saying how i feel to her to make her understand