Preface: I`m Mexican and grew up with Mexican parents. Spanking/hitting/beating your kids is culturally ok.

I`m 31. Going to be 32 tomorrow. My mom and I got into a spat because I was talking to my therapist about my life`s problems. One major problem I have is my living arraignment. We live with our sister and her douchebag husband and family. We have major stress in our lives because I don`t work and have been dealing with depression for the last couple of years. I don`t help around the house either and that leaves the load to my mom. She becomes incredibly frustrated and lashed out, verbally and emotionally abusing me being something she does regularly. On top of that, I sort of expect her to give me rides, to Starbucks so I can work on my Homework (I go to school), to the Gym, and sometimes to School, dentist appts etc. Since I don`t drive. Yes, I realize that stress and burden this places on her. So I was telling my therapist this via phone conference, she walked in and was incredibly pissed I was talking about her with my therapist. I left on bus to Starbucks, because I pretty much knew she wasn`t going to give me a ride after that. I tried texting her in the afternoon about it, only to find out she was still incredibly pissed. We went back and forth and it wasn`t pretty. Nightfell, I expected her to pick me up from Starbuck since we live in a rural area and its dangerous for a woman to be out at night, I certainly wasn`t expecting to take the bus. She did not pick me up on purpose in order to teach me a lesson. I got home and she started being like see! see! in a smug way. So I said, "fuck you" Chinga tu madre in Spanish for those who know. She started pulling my hair and got up from her bed to try to beat me with the shoe. Since I grew up with her physical abuse, and on top of that the mental and emotional abuse I received and still do I kinda snapped and shoved her to the floor. I told her I wasn`t about to be abused by her. I was also suicidal at that point and still kind of am. But she made a big deal out of it. It`s taboo in our culture for children to hit/get physical with their parents. She told me her mother used to hit her and her siblings with the fuse and never once did she raise her hand to her mother, not even to stop the fuse. I told her it was reactive violence since I was reacting to her being violent with me and I felt fearful (I really did, it was a physiological response I was having). A few days pass by and she behaves like the victim, I refuse to talk to her having resolved to not have a relationship with someone who is abusive toward me. She tells me how I hurt her pointing out the bruise on her ass and her elbow. AITAH?