I'm 26f , was in a relationship with my ex boyfriend 30m for 3years , we started dating when I was 22years . Before we started dating he made it clear that his short tempered but I didn't realize it'll ever get to the point of him hitting any lady not to think of someone he claims he loves (Me). I was pretty much patient and calm with him because that's what I signed up for so I gotta endure and try my best to make him a better person(mind you this was becausei loved him). The first time we had an argument he didn't hesitate to hit me, it felt like a dream to me because I haven't seen the monster in him yet . We were able to reconcile and make things straight. Mind y'all I'm someone who's always open to a peaceful dialogue because I'm not a fan of conflict especially in a relationship. And I always know that as humans everyone of us have our shortcomings so yeah I always feel is better to talk and settle because that's the perfect way to understand and move on . He was always argumentative about little stuffs that we can sort out within an eyeblink but I was calm because I believe every lady will want to see the best in a man they claim to love . I wasn't in a rush to see the best in him but I was consistent to see the better version of him . After a year of dating he started cheating , we got two major issues now , from hitting me to cheating on me . I clearly told him I wasn't going to continue with the relationship but he pleaded and agreed to change for good . I didn't know this dude had no plans of changing, same shit continued but he never laid his hand offensively on me again but always destroy our appliances and other stuff when his upset. Fast forward to early last year ,I caught him sexting his ex, someone he always condemned and said ill stuff about .That was so traumizing because I could clearly see that this dude never loved me he literally lied about everything for 3 years . His love for me wasn't true , he manipulated and made me feel useless . AITAH ? Or was just being patient for a positive outcome which I didn't get .