My and my Bf are now ex's but when we were dating he went to party's all the time. He would drink up to 14 shots/drinks in one night and would be completely drunk by the end of it. I told him multiple times I wasn't okay with how much he was drinking but he would tell me it wasn't a big deal and that his drinking wasn't to much. He would tell me while he was at party's how much he was consuming and then deny it later when he was sober. He would say he's a heavy weight but then when we casually drank together he would start getting pretty drunk 4 shot/drinks in and would stop there for the night because he was drunk and tired. The drinking got worse and worse and everytime I tried communicating to him about my concerns it would create an argument and he would be pretty mean. He once called me controlling during an argument.

He had also been struggling with depression and was really stressed from the intensity of school work. I tried to be patient and I tried to let it go because eventually I believed I was crazy. Then out of the blue he broke up with me. He said he didn't love me anymore and he had been feeling disconnected from me and couldn't bring back that connection.

I just have a strange feeling it is related to the alchol arguments. Do you guys think I was being to "controlling" or was I right to show concern and love.