My fiance (F21) and I (M22) have recently had a dwindling sex life. For context we’ve been together for a few years. This isn’t a new problem though as it’s been going on for at least 2 years. We both work full time jobs and we’ve both done college courses. I am a high sex drive individual. I always have been since we got together. She used to have one or at least seem like she did. For the past two years our sex has become scarce and patternized. Not to say it’s not enjoyable because it is, but it seems like there is a routine. Nothing is done without being said. Nothing is spontaneous. We do the same things the same way everytime. The amount of times we do it varies but usually at least once a month. I try not to let it affect me but like I said, I have a very high sex drive. It sometimes makes me feel unattractive to her, or if she has lost the sexual spark for me. I sometimes bring this is and her usual response is that I ask too much which I understand. Everything else in our relationship is great. I would never ever cheat on her. I love her with all my heart. I just want her to initiate without words. To kiss me or sit on my lap. Wear lingerie. Anything. Am I doing something wrong? Am I the asshole?