I (22f) got into an argument with my partner (22m). We have been dating for 4years now and everything was great. Until last month March 20th I went over my boyfriend’s house, he didn’t seem very chatty and cuddly as usual. I asked him about his day and he said “fine I guess” so obviously I asked what’s wrong. He told me nothing was wrong but I can just tell when he’s not ok. We were just chilling in his room one day and his mom came into the room. His mom just started to say “thank you for helping me with my credit. Because I was stupid when I was your age and messed up my credit” (she has said this to us multiple times before) and so apparently he had to call some credit union for her… like why can’t a grown adult (55f) ? Ever since she just randomly came in and said that (me sitting there with no other context but like wtf?) he just seem so disappointed and has even expressed to me that “he’s always had to be the “adult” in every situation, he has to be the peace maker in the house. It’s just so frustrating hearing that and just see the way he felt after(not sure if this is true but when he called the credit card company for himself her car is on his credit report somehow and he had no knowledge of it… I just hate watching my boyfriend get raking advantage of at 22 years old.. We want to start a life together and move away from it all but I feel like she’s trying to trap us or him mainly into her problems. I just hate sitting around watching my boyfriend get mad and upset but turn around and bend over backwards for people who never do the same. Also his dad does barely anything and his younger brother gets babied at 20 years old and is never asked of anything.

So AITAH for telling my boyfriend his mom isn’t the best thing to be around