A bit of backstory: I (20F) used to be in a three-year relationship with this guy (19M), who I'll call Jason. We were teenagers and had no idea what we were doing, and there was some toxicity in the relationship. We ended up breaking up and for me, there was a lot of resentment. I soon met my current boyfriend (20M), who I'll refer to as Mark, and we hit it off really well. I honestly didn't expect a relationship but it ended up happening and I couldn't be happier. We've been together for a year, but for that year, I still felt uncomfortable about Jason. I didn't want him in my life and I felt like he didn't want me in his either.

However, overtime, I started to feel like my resentment towards him was going nowhere. I just felt exhausted and wanted some form of clarity, although I was too much of a coward to do or say anything. Until now.

Main story: I was hanging out with a close friend who wanted to go to a bar. I agreed and we went but ended up bumping into Jason. At first, I felt anxious but also thought that I needed to talk to him in some way, just to have a peace of mind and move on from my hate. Call me a sucker but I don't like to hate. So finally, I went up to him and we chatted, alongside my friend. It went well and I can at least say that we're friendly. We've both grown as different people and my previous resentment has subsided a little.

That being said, I don't want a friendship with Jason. I just want it to be civil between us, that we can greet each other when we see one another on a street. He contacted me earlier, wanting to see how I was doing and how I felt in regards to me and him being on talking-terms again. I stated that I was okay with being an acquaintance but a friendship was something I wasn't looking for right now. Even if I were to look past what happened before, it wouldn't sit right with me being friends with my ex while in another relationship. I have yet to hear a response.

Now, I'm sitting here, wondering if I'm done the wrong thing. Maybe I should've let it be and never spoken, or maybe it was okay to have that clarity. I feel like I should tell Mark, we usually communicate these things. But I've already spoken to Mark about my previous relationship and like I said, it was toxic before with Jason. So I feel like I've already sewn the seed and bringing this up will only bring a lot of confusion. I don't want to be with Jason whatsoever, I just wanted to have some form of acceptance by talking with the dude briefly and being on better terms to be friendly with him and not hate his guts for the rest of my life.

AITAH for talking with my ex?