Yeah, that’s what she said. Buckle up.

I (32F) have been with my fiancé (38M) for almost 4 years. He has a daughter (15F) from his first marriage. Her mom is very much in the picture, but she’s more of a “wine and vibes” parent than someone who actually parents. I’ve been the one handling school stuff, doctor’s appointments, making actual meals instead of Postmates every night, helping her through panic attacks, you name it.

Now I never tried to replace her mom, but I’ve been a consistent, caring adult in her life. I even helped plan her last birthday party when her mom completely forgot the date. Like I’ve seriously bent over backwards for this kid.

Fast forward to last weekend. We’re at this fancy dinner with my fiancé’s family, first time his extended family has met me, so I’m trying to make a good impression. Midway through, his daughter turns to me, smiles sweet as pie, and goes:

“So how does it feel being a gold digger with a uterus? That’s what mom says you are.”

Whole table stops. Someone chokes on their wine. I just sat there stunned for a second and said, “Oh, honey… I’m not your mom. I just happen to be the woman keeping your life together while she’s out getting her chakras aligned.”

Fiancé was mortified. His daughter burst into tears and stormed out. He later said I “stooped to her level” and that I need to apologize because “she’s just a kid repeating what she hears.”

I told him I’ve spent YEARS being disrespected and taking the high road, and maybe the real problem is that a 15-year-old is walking around thinking she can say things like that and not get clapped back at.

Now his family is split, some think I was too harsh, others say I just finally said what no one else would.

So… AITAH for finally telling this girl I’m not her mom when she decided to come for me in front of the whole damn family?