By Organic_Food641 • Score: 1 • April 15, 2025 6:41 AM
I (15M) told my girlfriend (16F) that I'm pressing charges against my rapist. I've been silently dealing with a lot of the trauma that he gave me because it's still very difficult for me to talk about. Since then, she's told me that she no longer wants to show me the same level of affection that she has been showing me. We never really did much, just normal relationship things for people our age like cuddling, kisses, hugs, and holding hands. I responded by telling her that nows the time I would need that affection the most because pressing charges in going to be difficult for me because it means I'll have to talk about what happened to me more than I'd like to. She didn't say anything after I told her how I felt about it. It's now been 2 weeks since we had that conversation. She hasn't kissed me at all, shows me no affection what so ever, and only holds me in her sleep. She's also stopped texting me first, barely talks to me when I'm at her house, and she's started spending all of her time playing video games when in over. starting to feel like she no longer loves me, but that could be because of my anxiety. So, reddit, AITAH, for telling my girlfriend that I need affection?
Little edit for more context. Me and my girlfriend and I are both trans I'm ftm, and she's mtf. She's also a victim of SA but never decided to do anything legally because it all happened when we were in middle school, I'm not even sure if her mom knows about what happened to her. Unfortunately, this isn't the first time I've gone through something like this during the 2 and a half years that I've known her. Me and her have dated twice. The first time we were together, we lasted 6 months and only broke up because the new meds she was taking changed her emotions completely. We've now been together for 5 months, and I'm hoping we will make it to 1 year. I've had feelings for her the entire time that I've known her, and being with her has made me the absolute best version of myself. I will not be breaking up with her because of this one situation, I am young, but I do know that I truly love her. I am going to talk to her more about this when I know the time is right, nows just not the best timing.
UPDATE!
I forgot that I was logged into my email on her phone, and she saw that I got a good bit of emails from reddit. She read my post and brought it up to me a second ago. I told her that I would've preferred her not to read it, but other than that, not much was said. I'm not really sure what to do now.
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