Me (m32) and my gf (now ex) (f32) were together for about a year… until recently.

At first everything was great. Then I went to a music festival I go to every year and have done for the past 8yrs. She seemed fine with it until I was there and she would not speak to me the whole time. I even had my mum try and contact her for me just to let me know that she’s ok but she didn’t even reply to my mum. I managed to get hold of her on the last day of the festival. I absolutely lost my shit with her for completely ignoring me and my mum for 5days and I told her to pack her stuff and get out because the stress and worry had partly ruined the festival which is the only thing I have to look forward to every year. I came back and after a couple days we sorted things out. Her excuse for not speaking to me was that she was going through a really tuff time without me and she never saw any calls from me (which I didn’t believe but stupidly let slide) turns out she was ok enough to drive 3hrs to go chill with an old work friend though loool.

During our whole relationship she never paid for anything. I’m more than happy to do this as long as she looked after our home. I look after her and she looks after me.. what’s wrong with that?? but she wanted an extra £100 a week just to keep on top of my 2 bed flat that she spent 90% of her time at and Considering she smoked at least £100 of weed (that I’d pay for) a week whilst also never rolling for herself.

Strangely she also used to go to these drug rehabilitation groups for addicts but wasn’t an addict or at least wasn’t trying to actively stop smoking weed. It’s like she just wanted to be absorbed into the drama and misery of these people at group.

She once told me she was going to lunch with an old guy friend of hers that she’d known for ages. When she got back I questioned her about how they knew each other and turns out they met on tinder ages ago, slept together but stayed friends. I lost my shit. Still haven’t even told my mates or anyone I know about that because I feel so embarrassed I didn’t just cut it off there and then.

I also missed so many family functions like Boxing Day at my dads and Christmas at my nans because she wasn’t feeling it.

A month ago her dad got diagnosed with aggressive bone cancer and given not long at all.

I woke up next to her the other Sunday. I live on a ground floor flat and the upstairs kids make so much noise. It was 8am and they were banging around. Once I’m awake I get restless so snuggled into her for a couple minutes then had to get up and move so went and had a smoke in the living room. 5 minutes later she balls in aggy as fuck telling me how selfish I am and that I never do anything for her all because I didn’t spend and extra few minutes in bed with her snuggling. Something switched in me and I just told her well she best go find someone else who can because I’m clearly not capable of giving her what she needs and that I’m not being made to feel useless when all I’ve done is do everything she asked of me.

Now thinking about it I do feel terrible because of the timing with her dad but since I got rid of her my life has been great. I can focus on my training, my work and I have so much more spare money. AITA?

P.s. sorry for my terrible grammar. Didn’t do much school lol